SAHM are just as smart!!!!

Okay, why is it that so many assumptions are made about SAHM?   I am particularly upset about others assuming I chose to become a SAHM because I was unable to do anything else.  

First of all, making the decision to become a full-time at-home parent required (and continues to require) a lot of careful consideration, none of which was easy.  Whether the decision was to return to paid work or to become an at-home parent, parenting is challenging  –even on the best of days — and it necessitates parents using all sorts of skills (negotiations, mediation, scheduling, planning, problem-solving, counselling…. I could go on and on and on….).

 It is particularly frustrating when dealing with others who speak to you as if they need to simplify the way they talk to you.   I received a call from my daughter’s vice-principal last week regarding something that was neither good nor bad, yet the way he spoke to me left me feeling annoyed.  The use of his simple language  conveyed the message to me that he felt I would not understand him otherwise. 

I am an educated woman (not bragging because I don’t like that either).  I probably have as much formal education (or more) than this school official.  Yet I do not speak to others like I’m “smarter” than they are.  It’s life, not university, that is the real educator.

 Maybe this is a personal pet peeve.  Maybe I’m being too sensitive.  Maybe I need to lighten up. Perhaps. 

All I know is that we all need to be spoken to with respect and kindness.


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Why is everything my fault?

Is it just my house?  Why, when something goes missing — something that I do not use or need — is it my fault that it cannot be found?  If you have a child, or a husband for that matter, you know what I’m talking about. 

This morning it was a Webkinz:

Diva:  “Mom, where is my bunny Webkinz?!!!”  

Mom: “I put it where it should be — in the Webkinz basket beside your closet?

Diva: “IT’S NOT HERE!!!”

Mom: “Well, that’s where I put it yesterday after I found it in the car.”

Diva: “I never had it in the car. I need it NOW!” 

Mom: “I’m coming……”

Diva: (as I stop what I’m doing and trip over two rambunctious puppies)  “Oh, never    mind,  I found it!”

Mom: “Where was it?”

Diva: “In the Webkinz basket beside my closet.”

Okay is it just me?  Isn’t that what I said 10 frustrating minutes ago?!  How is it that we as moms own everyone else’s problems?   I spend lots of time teaching my little diva, I mean, daughter, to be responsible for her own actions and to honor her belongings.  Yet at some point every day there will come a time when I get in trouble for what (insert child or husband’s name here — most days one is the same amount of work as the other).

Anyway… that’s my rant for today… I gotta go now… stuff to put away so it can be found later… or not……

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